I spent this past entire Saturday in traffic school.
It was my choice. Yes, four tickets the first four months of this year shocked and jostled me to do this, not a court order. Yes, I could try to easily rationalize each offense. I’ll spare you all that and the total costs, though my license quickly got [only] 8 points. I even sought the advice of a police friend….who laughed at me and quipped, “I didn’t know that your retirement would lead you to a life of crime, Tom!” Not funny, but sobering. I knew it was time for me to reassess my driving skills, even after 50 years of near ticket-free “careful” driving.
I went dreading those unending, boring lectures, gory auto accident films, a cramped seat and a disinterested presenter. Imagine being delightfully disappointed on all counts! The videos were more about victims’ shake-us-up testimonies, including one “I don’t get it perp”, not gory accident pix. We were given lots of potty breaks, thankfully. I was by far the oldest one in my class of 30 folks and the only “volunteer” as the others, including a father and son combo, had all been court-ordered to show or face suspended driver’s licenses. Not a happy crowd.
Takeaways? One eye-opener was how to face a head-on collision, also finding that child car seats have an expiration date stamped on them and a shelf life of about six years, so my “grandpa chauffeur” status may get a car seat makeover. I also realized afresh I get easily distracted while driving. No, I don’t shave, anymore, but I do eat, drink, fiddle with my radio and a/c a bit too much while driving. Or I did.
I also got reminded that driving is NOT competitive (except on race tracks) but more cooperative which means letting slow, distracted or raging drivers go by and creating a safe, undistracted atmosphere INSIDE my car for me and any passengers.
I hope I can drive at least another ten years. I dread losing that….privilege (I almost wrote RIGHT.) The cost? Driving takes my full attention when I do it. Like writing these words, I can’t have a phone ringing, loud music blaring or being doing other things while I do this.
I graduated, too. Passed the final test, at least the one on paper. I also drove home with a different, more cautious attitude. So if you see me driving slower while I “scan” intersections, know that I know a few things about driving I’d forgotten. I’ll keep servicing my car, set the GPS and media before I get rolling, try to be a cooperative driver, and assume others are not fresh from traffic school even when I suspect they need to be. And I’ll work more to enjoy the privilege of driving.
If driving is not your issue, what is? Where are you fighting distractions, rage, bad equipment, or you are in a big hurry?
I’ll risk saying that God blessed me as I volunteered to spend a day in school, learning afresh what I spend a lot of time doing.
For eight hours I got a good education, and no one was harmed in the making of my Saturday.
Hats off to you, Tom, for your humility. While I never feared for my life knowing you were on the road (sounds like you’re saying perhaps I should have? haha), there are some drivers I ‘cooperate’ with out there who absolutely terrify me when I look over to see what appears to be Rip Van Winkle in the drivers seat, trying, ever so hard, to adjust his glasses so he can see the buttons on the ‘newfangled’ radio to switch it to AM so he can hear his favorite radio drama from yesteryear, all while negotiating in and out of interstate traffic at a cool 90 MPH Did I mention this stereotype typically has a truck bed FULL of sharp, scary scrap metal; the perfect size dicing and slicing anything behind it, were it to fall out?). Let me tell you, Jesus and I get quite a bit closer when I realize he’s probably only a few minutes from taking home the guy next to me, despite his current status of hurling down the highway with the rusty ‘guillotines’ in the back of his tetanus truck…
While you are still a number of years (and a few hundred pounds of scrap metal) short of fulfilling this stereotype, you are an asset to your generation, Tom, and I’d let you drive me anywhere!
Adam,
How good to hear from you, and please forgive a tardy reply as I let the blog go a couple of weeks (must be the HEAT!). Thanks for the kind comments, and yes, I’ve been ticket free for now going on three months! Gerald G. is trying to revamp Men’s Something or Other….and I’m trying to help a bit though I’ve plenty to do these days, amazingly. I hope all is progressing with you on every front, and that you sense God’s nearness and yes, other than just in traffic. Tom T.
Suggested blog edit…
Husband, dad, grandpa, pastor, model train nut, follower of Jesus………. speeder
WOW TOM!!! i have to laugh like your cop friend…who knew retirement would bring out your wild side!! But so glad you decided to take a refresher course in traffic school.. and i’m with you on the carseat thing.. learned that myself a year ago…
Thanks for sharing this adventure with us!!
Rissa,
Just now checking my blog for responses…got to get better at this, though thanks for your comments!